Kimberly Steinhoff December 26, 2019 Family Schedule
Once everyone gets their perfect planner there is still one more item needed. A kitchen calendar. It will need to fit on the refrigerator door. This is the best place because it is the one place that everyone will see it, no matter what. Any adjustments to schedules can be listed there for all to see.
The family that plans together stays together. Establish a meeting day and time and stick with it. Sundays are a great time to establish schedules. For one, it is when most families spend time together, whether it be church, dinners or just relaxing from the weeks events. The established day must be one that all members can attend. Remind attendees to bring their planners. General pencil and pen with paper are not acceptable.
At a family meeting, establish the plan together. They are much more likely to stick to it. Then when your child objects to the plan, remind them that you built it together and you would be happy to re-evaluate the plan at your next family meeting. Post the plan on the refrigerator so that everyone can see it and be reminded of what happens next. Use small drawings or symbols next to each items to allow non-readers to participate.
In your schedule, you should also include some fun element. For instance, mark a day every week on which you head out for a movie, dinner, or an amusement park. This will be very helpful in family bonding. Moreover, this day should be solely for the family and you must not plan a day out with your friends or colleagues on this very day. You must also consider certain variations that suddenly show up. These variations can disturb your schedule. For instance, you had a bad day at work, or you are ill. The movie plan will have to be postponed for next week then.
Play dates should be a special occurrence for younger children, not a regular routine. On days with no activities, ensure your child comes home, has an afterschool snack and enjoys some free time before doing their homework. Kids need some days to relax and do nothing. A Family Organizer or Calendar lets kids help with planning by placing stickers to mark activities, play dates and special activities. This will help them prepare for the week ahead.
More and more I am realizing that most of your issues can be resolved by simply scheduling your day. What do I mean? Make the schedule, the calendar, the timer, something concrete, outside of you, the authority. Also, a schedule preps your child for the day and upcoming events. You will find your children much more cooperative if they have been clued in to the plan, and more importantly, included in the planning.