Anne Sanborn January 27, 2020 Family Schedule
Every member of the family must have a certain task to do. All the members must be serious about the particular responsibility they have. As you distribute the tasks among members, at the end of the day, you will have a limited burden on your shoulders, and ultimately you will feel relaxed as all the chores would be done on time. You can also switch these duties from time to time so that the members are not bored with what they are supposed to do.
At a family meeting, establish the plan together. They are much more likely to stick to it. Then when your child objects to the plan, remind them that you built it together and you would be happy to re-evaluate the plan at your next family meeting. Post the plan on the refrigerator so that everyone can see it and be reminded of what happens next. Use small drawings or symbols next to each items to allow non-readers to participate.
Have clearly defined nap and/or bed times for each member of the family and stick to them as often as you can. Try to maintain a consistent before bed ritual each night. Tidy room, lay out clothing for next day, bathe or wash up, brush teeth, tell a story, read or listen to music, and lights out. Be flexible when it comes to special events that keep your children up later than usual. You can get back to your regular routine the next day. Wake up with enough time to start your day off right. When times are hectic, things are missed and children and parents become stressed.
More and more I am realizing that most of your issues can be resolved by simply scheduling your day. What do I mean? Make the schedule, the calendar, the timer, something concrete, outside of you, the authority. Also, a schedule preps your child for the day and upcoming events. You will find your children much more cooperative if they have been clued in to the plan, and more importantly, included in the planning.
If you are a working woman, things are tough for you. However, you must make it clear to your children that you have a job and they will have to respect your professional requirements too. Therefore, you owe a hand in doing all the chores and family members must cooperate. Even if your work hours are flexible, give enough importance to your work schedule as well as your home schedule.
Play dates should be a special occurrence for younger children, not a regular routine. On days with no activities, ensure your child comes home, has an afterschool snack and enjoys some free time before doing their homework. Kids need some days to relax and do nothing. A Family Organizer or Calendar lets kids help with planning by placing stickers to mark activities, play dates and special activities. This will help them prepare for the week ahead.