Wendy Hodge January 17, 2020 Family Schedule
Play dates should be a special occurrence for younger children, not a regular routine. On days with no activities, ensure your child comes home, has an afterschool snack and enjoys some free time before doing their homework. Kids need some days to relax and do nothing. A Family Organizer or Calendar lets kids help with planning by placing stickers to mark activities, play dates and special activities. This will help them prepare for the week ahead.
Sometimes Children get out of school before we get off work. We should make sure someone is there to get them after school and stay with them until we return home. If we have no one to do that then a day care for him or her is recommended. It is less stressful knowing our Children are not home along without adult supervision. If we are married, quality time is necessary. Intimacy is very important so time should be spent with our spouse without our job on our mind. It is OK to talk about how our day went but not the entire time. This is the time to relax and enjoy each other.
Giving the Family members responsibilities can take a big burden off us. We cannot do everything, if we try to do it all we will soon become burned out so give them some work to do. Finally, we need time for ourselves to relax and re-group. We take just for us doing what we want to do even if it is nothing this time. It is the time for our spouse, if we have one to take care of the needs of the Children. If we are not married but we have an older child, he can care for the younger one(s) for a while. This time of refreshment is beneficial because it will relax us and clear our mind so we could, with energy get back to the business at hand.
At a family meeting, establish the plan together. They are much more likely to stick to it. Then when your child objects to the plan, remind them that you built it together and you would be happy to re-evaluate the plan at your next family meeting. Post the plan on the refrigerator so that everyone can see it and be reminded of what happens next. Use small drawings or symbols next to each items to allow non-readers to participate.
Once everyone gets their perfect planner there is still one more item needed. A kitchen calendar. It will need to fit on the refrigerator door. This is the best place because it is the one place that everyone will see it, no matter what. Any adjustments to schedules can be listed there for all to see.
Do not over schedule. Your child`s school day is busy enough. Set clear guidelines for how many extracurricular activities they can participate in and stick to them. Do not let children organize play dates as you are picking them up from school. This is the quickest way to burn them out. They may seem full of energy coming off of their busy day, but they will melt down quickly if they do not have any downtime at the end of their day.