Brunilde Piazza November 25, 2020 Family Schedule
Have clearly defined nap and/or bed times for each member of the family and stick to them as often as you can. Try to maintain a consistent before bed ritual each night. Tidy room, lay out clothing for next day, bathe or wash up, brush teeth, tell a story, read or listen to music, and lights out. Be flexible when it comes to special events that keep your children up later than usual. You can get back to your regular routine the next day. Wake up with enough time to start your day off right. When times are hectic, things are missed and children and parents become stressed.
Our family might need our attention doing our work schedule like Doctor Visits or business affairs. In instances like this, we should request time off in advance and make sure our work is caught up so we will not be behind when we return to work. Children have after hour school activities and it is important that we attend as many of them as we can. We should ask them about their activities everyday so nothing will come upon us suddenly, that way we might be able to leave work a little early by asking someone to cover for us. They will be more willing to help us out if they know about it in advance.
Play dates should be a special occurrence for younger children, not a regular routine. On days with no activities, ensure your child comes home, has an afterschool snack and enjoys some free time before doing their homework. Kids need some days to relax and do nothing. A Family Organizer or Calendar lets kids help with planning by placing stickers to mark activities, play dates and special activities. This will help them prepare for the week ahead.
At a family meeting, establish the plan together. They are much more likely to stick to it. Then when your child objects to the plan, remind them that you built it together and you would be happy to re-evaluate the plan at your next family meeting. Post the plan on the refrigerator so that everyone can see it and be reminded of what happens next. Use small drawings or symbols next to each items to allow non-readers to participate.
More and more I am realizing that most of your issues can be resolved by simply scheduling your day. What do I mean? Make the schedule, the calendar, the timer, something concrete, outside of you, the authority. Also, a schedule preps your child for the day and upcoming events. You will find your children much more cooperative if they have been clued in to the plan, and more importantly, included in the planning.
Family life can be overwhelming at times, so what can you do to stay sane? Keep things simple, have a routine, and be flexible. It is pretty easy if you set some guidelines for the rhythm of your life that everyone in your family can adhere to. The end result? You will be left with more time for Mom and Dad and that is a really sweet thing.