Wendy Hodge January 6, 2022 Parenting
Divorce and separation are difficult not only for the child but also for the parents. It is important that the parents do all they can to make the transition as seamless and easy as possible. Parents should try and work together if possible to create a single parenting plan so it is created in the child`s best interests. Courts will mostly accept a plan upon which both parents agree and have cooperated on.
Ultimately, the court wants parents to understand that just because their intimate relationship is ending, their rights and responsibilities as parents are not. Because divorce is often full of conflict, pain and hurt, couples are encouraged to set aside their differences and focus on minimizing the effects of the separation on the children.
Working together in mediation allows you to reduce conflict because you are working with a third party. It also allows you to take as long as your reasonably need to reach an agreement that is in the best interest of your children.
When two people divorce and wish to lead separate lives, it becomes much more complicated when children are involved. Divorcing parents should have the same goal-to be as involved in their children`s lives as possible and to provide them with stable, effective parenting. Joint custody is one way to achieve that goal, but can it work for your family?
Child custody situations can be stressful and overwhelming for parents and children. Too often, the parents bring emotional issues from the divorce into the custody situation and a custody battle develops. The children are the ones who ultimate lose in these cases. The first step to winning custody is for the mother and father to look objectively at the situation and figure out the best way for the children to be raised. This almost always means that both parents need to be involved in the children`s lives (except in cases of abuse or when a parent is unfit). A parent who is seeking to exclude the other parent from the children needs to take a step back and be honest about their reasoning. Are they doing this because of a personal vendetta? Are the children really going to benefit from this action? If the children`s interests are slighted, there is not any way for either parent to win custody.
When it comes time to negotiate with the other parent about changes to the parenting plan, hopefully you are both on the same page about the changes. If the other parent is not open to the revisions, you may need to enter into some negotiations to change the parenting plan on your children`s behalf.
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