Sylvia Brown April 25, 2021 Parenting
Child custody situations can be stressful and overwhelming for parents and children. Too often, the parents bring emotional issues from the divorce into the custody situation and a custody battle develops. The children are the ones who ultimate lose in these cases. The first step to winning custody is for the mother and father to look objectively at the situation and figure out the best way for the children to be raised. This almost always means that both parents need to be involved in the children`s lives (except in cases of abuse or when a parent is unfit). A parent who is seeking to exclude the other parent from the children needs to take a step back and be honest about their reasoning. Are they doing this because of a personal vendetta? Are the children really going to benefit from this action? If the children`s interests are slighted, there is not any way for either parent to win custody.
If parents decide to separate and the mother or father moves out the house, the parents need to figure out the child custody situation during this time. Because the time of separation is uncertain and the parents usually do not know how it will end, the mother and father should come up with a parenting agreement for temporary custody. Temporary child custody refers to the time period when the parents are waiting to find out if or when they will need a permanent parenting agreement.
The parents should also consider the nature and temperament of their children. If a child is very close to one parent and wants to live with that parent, the child may need to move with that parent. Sometimes that is for the best. Depending on the age of the children, the parents can get input about what the children would like to happen. They can set up different arrangements for each of their children if that is necessary. The parents should listen to their children, but in the end they should act in the best way they see fit.
Experts recommend that the temporary parenting plan not introduce large changes right away into the children`s lives. While some change is inevitable, parents should minimize drastic changes and introduce new situations slowly. A temporary plan is a good way to get both parents on the same page regarding the new arrangements that separation brings into the family.
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