Sylvia Brown December 11, 2021 Parenting
While a parenting plan should outline ways for children to keep positive existing routines and relationships, sometimes parents overlook some obvious topics. Here are 20 questions your parenting plan must answer if you want to cover some of the most problematic areas that divorced parents face when it comes to co-parenting.
Child custody situations can be stressful and overwhelming for parents and children. Too often, the parents bring emotional issues from the divorce into the custody situation and a custody battle develops. The children are the ones who ultimate lose in these cases. The first step to winning custody is for the mother and father to look objectively at the situation and figure out the best way for the children to be raised. This almost always means that both parents need to be involved in the children`s lives (except in cases of abuse or when a parent is unfit). A parent who is seeking to exclude the other parent from the children needs to take a step back and be honest about their reasoning. Are they doing this because of a personal vendetta? Are the children really going to benefit from this action? If the children`s interests are slighted, there is not any way for either parent to win custody.
The solution is to focus on the needs of the child. The mother and father should make a parenting time schedule that lets the child be with both parents in a situation where the child will benefit. If the child is old enough, parents may also want to consult with the child to find out what he/she thinks about the schedule.
The family court wants to see an arrangement that represents the best interests of the children. Ideally, both parents will work together to be involved in their children`s lives and will set up a reasonable arrangement that does not disrupt their environment too much.
Together as parents you must decide how you will share the responsibility of making decisions for your children. These are major decisions such as religion, education and medical care. The parental responsibility to make decisions is called sole custody. The next section in your plan should determine how the children`s time is spent with parents. This is known as physical custody. It is useful to create a time schedule or calendar that outlines when the children is in the care of each parent.
If you are, you certainly would not be the first person to say so. Secondly, no parent is perfect, and you probably weren`t either, but you did learn eventually from your mistakes. Still, it is hard when your grandkids parents are making mistakes and you have to sit and watch all of this go on. It might make you depressed knowing that you ca not do anything about it, or eventually make you depressed because the kids have all that youthful energy, and it just makes you feel so old.
Tag Cloudcomprehensive parenting plan