Kimberly Steinhoff January 12, 2022 Parenting
When it comes time to negotiate with the other parent about changes to the parenting plan, hopefully you are both on the same page about the changes. If the other parent is not open to the revisions, you may need to enter into some negotiations to change the parenting plan on your children`s behalf.
Child custody situations can be stressful and overwhelming for parents and children. Too often, the parents bring emotional issues from the divorce into the custody situation and a custody battle develops. The children are the ones who ultimate lose in these cases. The first step to winning custody is for the mother and father to look objectively at the situation and figure out the best way for the children to be raised. This almost always means that both parents need to be involved in the children`s lives (except in cases of abuse or when a parent is unfit). A parent who is seeking to exclude the other parent from the children needs to take a step back and be honest about their reasoning. Are they doing this because of a personal vendetta? Are the children really going to benefit from this action? If the children`s interests are slighted, there is not any way for either parent to win custody.
Experts recommend that the temporary parenting plan not introduce large changes right away into the children`s lives. While some change is inevitable, parents should minimize drastic changes and introduce new situations slowly. A temporary plan is a good way to get both parents on the same page regarding the new arrangements that separation brings into the family.
When working out a parenting agreement for temporary custody, the mother and father need to consider how they will continue to raise the children while living in separate locations. The first decision to make is where the children will live. If it is possible, the children should stay in their same home. The parents should strive to give as much stability as possible to their children during this time of change. The kids should be able to attend the same school and be close to their friends. This can all happen if they stay at their home. This means that the children will most likely live with the parent who has stayed in the house and have visits to the parent who has moved.
Millions of Americans have grown up in households with a step-parent. Whether a stepmother or stepfather, it is not uncommon for children to become just as attached to a step-parent as to the corresponding biological parent. In some cases children may only barely know that biological parent. Despite such a close bond, if the child`s parent and step-parent divorce, it can be difficult for the step-parent to gain legal visitation or custody rights.
If you and the other parent have similar values and parenting styles, the chances for success with a shared plan increase. When children are exposed to one person`s methods, which are completely reversed with the other parent, it can cause confusion, stress and divided loyalty. Your children will benefit from joint custody if you and the other parent see eye to eye on many basic child rearing practices.