Kimberly Steinhoff January 12, 2022 Parenting
The parents should also consider the nature and temperament of their children. If a child is very close to one parent and wants to live with that parent, the child may need to move with that parent. Sometimes that is for the best. Depending on the age of the children, the parents can get input about what the children would like to happen. They can set up different arrangements for each of their children if that is necessary. The parents should listen to their children, but in the end they should act in the best way they see fit.
Usually, parents request modifications to the parenting plan when there is a significant change to the children`s lives or the parent`s lives. Whether it is a change to the basic custody schedule or a topic in the parenting plan, almost every part of the plan is open to revisions, as long as you can show the court that the changes benefit your children.
Another key issue in making a joint custody parenting plan work is proximity to the other parent. When children have to shuffle between households frequently, it leaves them feeling unsettled, distracted and conflicted. You both can minimize those feelings by remaining in close proximity to each other and to your children`s schools and friends. When transitions between homes are smooth and conflict-free, joint custody can benefit children.
If the other parent refuses to cooperate on the agreement and insists on going to court, a parent should make every effort to prepare for court and get their parenting agreement accepted. The parent can suggest going to mediation to work things out beforehand, and some states even require that parents attend custody mediation before going to court. However, if things still do not work out, the parent should make a parenting agreement and be prepared to fully explain why this agreement is in the best interest of the children. They should give adequate time to both parents and make the parenting time schedule fair. This will help the court see that this parent is trying to do what is best for the child and increase the chances of the agreement being accepted. Hopefully, things can be resolved in the best way for the children.
When working out a parenting agreement for temporary custody, the mother and father need to consider how they will continue to raise the children while living in separate locations. The first decision to make is where the children will live. If it is possible, the children should stay in their same home. The parents should strive to give as much stability as possible to their children during this time of change. The kids should be able to attend the same school and be close to their friends. This can all happen if they stay at their home. This means that the children will most likely live with the parent who has stayed in the house and have visits to the parent who has moved.
Sometimes it becomes necessary to revise the parenting plan you created as you and the other parent were going through your divorce proceedings. A parenting plan cannot cover every aspect of life and cannot anticipate how real life will change over the years. There is no problem with revising your parenting plan as long as it continues to put your childrens best interests first.