Kimberly Steinhoff January 12, 2022 Parenting
Child custody situations can be stressful and overwhelming for parents and children. Too often, the parents bring emotional issues from the divorce into the custody situation and a custody battle develops. The children are the ones who ultimate lose in these cases. The first step to winning custody is for the mother and father to look objectively at the situation and figure out the best way for the children to be raised. This almost always means that both parents need to be involved in the children`s lives (except in cases of abuse or when a parent is unfit). A parent who is seeking to exclude the other parent from the children needs to take a step back and be honest about their reasoning. Are they doing this because of a personal vendetta? Are the children really going to benefit from this action? If the children`s interests are slighted, there is not any way for either parent to win custody.
For a Georgia Superior Court to deny visitation to a parent, it must be determined that the child would be harmed in some way by continuing to have a relationship with the parent. This could be because of abuse allegations or because of criminal or immoral activity. In most cases, the court will not deny visitation permanently but will order the non-custodial parent to meet certain obligations. Often a parent will deny the other parent visitation rights. This is a violation of a court order and the other parent can be charged with contempt. First, the parent who was denied visitation must file for modification of visitation. Unfortunately, this can take several weeks to move through the court system before the parent has his or her visitation rights destroyed.
Your original parenting plan most likely won`t fit your family`s needs forever, so you and the other parent must negotiate changes. You owe it to your children to work together to provide the best possible environments for your children through open communication. In order to negotiate effectively, you must have a certain level of trust and commitment established so you can agree on the best way to parent your children and to revise the parenting plan as your family changes and grows. Even though you are no longer together, you will always be partners when it comes to providing a supportive and caring life for your children.
Another key issue in making a joint custody parenting plan work is proximity to the other parent. When children have to shuffle between households frequently, it leaves them feeling unsettled, distracted and conflicted. You both can minimize those feelings by remaining in close proximity to each other and to your children`s schools and friends. When transitions between homes are smooth and conflict-free, joint custody can benefit children.
Making an effective parenting plan is not always easy. It can be overwhelming and scary at times trying to figure out what to include to make it the best it can be. Parents may not know what needs to go into a plan to make effective and worthwhile. Let`s take a look at what a basic plan entails so you know what you should include: A parenting time schedule that shows when each parent cares for the child; A schedule for holidays, birthdays, vacations and special events in the child`s life; Information about the child`s expenses including information about child support; A dispute resolution process that determines how parental disagreements are resolved; A process for making changes to the plan as circumstances change and the child grows older; Provisions the parents feel are necessary for providing and caring for their child; and Additional information that will help make the plan more effective.
While a parenting plan should outline ways for children to keep positive existing routines and relationships, sometimes parents overlook some obvious topics. Here are 20 questions your parenting plan must answer if you want to cover some of the most problematic areas that divorced parents face when it comes to co-parenting.