Kimberly Steinhoff January 12, 2022 Parenting
Bring your own version of a parenting plan to mediation, because that helps you get your thoughts organized and down on paper. Preparing a plan gives you time to think about custody preferences, financial obligations, how and where your children should spend their days, and how your family will spend holidays and vacations.
Child custody situations can be stressful and overwhelming for parents and children. Too often, the parents bring emotional issues from the divorce into the custody situation and a custody battle develops. The children are the ones who ultimate lose in these cases. The first step to winning custody is for the mother and father to look objectively at the situation and figure out the best way for the children to be raised. This almost always means that both parents need to be involved in the children`s lives (except in cases of abuse or when a parent is unfit). A parent who is seeking to exclude the other parent from the children needs to take a step back and be honest about their reasoning. Are they doing this because of a personal vendetta? Are the children really going to benefit from this action? If the children`s interests are slighted, there is not any way for either parent to win custody.
The best part of being a grandparent perhaps is that you get to visit the kids when they are smiling, and the parents have to deal with them all the time, change their diapers, and take care of all the other nonsense. You get the best of all worlds. It is fun to watch the grandkids run around and play, and reminisce about what it was like to be young, or how you raised your own kids. Having grandkids visit is fun, raising grandkids can be quite a chore, perhaps you are getting too old for that.
To begin with, child support payments can begin before the parenting agreement is finalized. As soon as the parents separate or one parent moves out of the house, a parent can file for temporary child support. This support payment is based on the same formula that is used for the permanent support. Every state uses different factors, but almost every state uses the timeshare percentage to calculate the amount that needs to be paid. This means that the parent who has the most time with the children receives the support. The amount of support is based on the time difference and the other factors the state includes.
When two people divorce and wish to lead separate lives, it becomes much more complicated when children are involved. Divorcing parents should have the same goal-to be as involved in their children`s lives as possible and to provide them with stable, effective parenting. Joint custody is one way to achieve that goal, but can it work for your family?
When working out a parenting agreement for temporary custody, the mother and father need to consider how they will continue to raise the children while living in separate locations. The first decision to make is where the children will live. If it is possible, the children should stay in their same home. The parents should strive to give as much stability as possible to their children during this time of change. The kids should be able to attend the same school and be close to their friends. This can all happen if they stay at their home. This means that the children will most likely live with the parent who has stayed in the house and have visits to the parent who has moved.