Sylvia Brown April 15, 2021 Parenting
When two people divorce and wish to lead separate lives, it becomes much more complicated when children are involved. Divorcing parents should have the same goal-to be as involved in their children`s lives as possible and to provide them with stable, effective parenting. Joint custody is one way to achieve that goal, but can it work for your family?
Two types of parenting plans exist: temporary and permanent. When there is a divorce that includes children, the family court requires that there must be specific rules and regulations concerning the children, hence the temporary parenting plan. These are used as a bridge during divorce proceedings to preserve the current lifestyle and enhance the stability of the children.
The best way for a mother or father to truly win child custody is to work with the other parent to create an acceptable parenting agreement. The parents should try to set aside other issues and disagreements and focus solely on what they are going to do to raise their children. The plan that they create for caring for the children becomes the parenting agreement. If they work together and are willing to be open and to compromise, they should be able to come up with a parenting time schedule that allows for fair time for each parent. They will also be able to divide up the holidays fairly. These parents will also put in parenting provisions and stipulations that will ensure the child is being raised in a positive home environment. This will help the parent`s peace of mind when the child is at the other home.
Child custody situations can be stressful and overwhelming for parents and children. Too often, the parents bring emotional issues from the divorce into the custody situation and a custody battle develops. The children are the ones who ultimate lose in these cases. The first step to winning custody is for the mother and father to look objectively at the situation and figure out the best way for the children to be raised. This almost always means that both parents need to be involved in the children`s lives (except in cases of abuse or when a parent is unfit). A parent who is seeking to exclude the other parent from the children needs to take a step back and be honest about their reasoning. Are they doing this because of a personal vendetta? Are the children really going to benefit from this action? If the children`s interests are slighted, there is not any way for either parent to win custody.