Wendy Hodge December 10, 2021 Parenting
For many divorcing parents, a family court will recommend mediation services to work out issues concerning a parenting plan and visitation schedule. In some states, mediation is mandatory. Whether private mediation or through the court, mediation is an excellent way for you and the other parent to work together to create a parenting plan for your children.
Bring your own version of a parenting plan to mediation, because that helps you get your thoughts organized and down on paper. Preparing a plan gives you time to think about custody preferences, financial obligations, how and where your children should spend their days, and how your family will spend holidays and vacations.
When separation or divorce happens and children are involved, the first thing that should be done is making a parenting plan. You may need to make a temporary plan if a long and heated custody battle is coming. Even if custody hearings are short and less stressful, a temporary parenting plan may need to be made before a permanent one is created. A temporary plan should consist of as much detail as you can but needs just the basics to get you by until a permanent plan can be made. What are the basics of a temporary parenting plan? Parenting time schedule - How much time each parent spends with the children Children`s schedules - What activities the children have Emergency information - Any information pertaining to emergencies
The parents should also consider the nature and temperament of their children. If a child is very close to one parent and wants to live with that parent, the child may need to move with that parent. Sometimes that is for the best. Depending on the age of the children, the parents can get input about what the children would like to happen. They can set up different arrangements for each of their children if that is necessary. The parents should listen to their children, but in the end they should act in the best way they see fit.
Child custody situations can be stressful and overwhelming for parents and children. Too often, the parents bring emotional issues from the divorce into the custody situation and a custody battle develops. The children are the ones who ultimate lose in these cases. The first step to winning custody is for the mother and father to look objectively at the situation and figure out the best way for the children to be raised. This almost always means that both parents need to be involved in the children`s lives (except in cases of abuse or when a parent is unfit). A parent who is seeking to exclude the other parent from the children needs to take a step back and be honest about their reasoning. Are they doing this because of a personal vendetta? Are the children really going to benefit from this action? If the children`s interests are slighted, there is not any way for either parent to win custody.
Two types of parenting plans exist: temporary and permanent. When there is a divorce that includes children, the family court requires that there must be specific rules and regulations concerning the children, hence the temporary parenting plan. These are used as a bridge during divorce proceedings to preserve the current lifestyle and enhance the stability of the children.