Sylvia Brown January 8, 2020 Family Schedule
Have clearly defined nap and/or bed times for each member of the family and stick to them as often as you can. Try to maintain a consistent before bed ritual each night. Tidy room, lay out clothing for next day, bathe or wash up, brush teeth, tell a story, read or listen to music, and lights out. Be flexible when it comes to special events that keep your children up later than usual. You can get back to your regular routine the next day. Wake up with enough time to start your day off right. When times are hectic, things are missed and children and parents become stressed.
In your schedule, you should also include some fun element. For instance, mark a day every week on which you head out for a movie, dinner, or an amusement park. This will be very helpful in family bonding. Moreover, this day should be solely for the family and you must not plan a day out with your friends or colleagues on this very day. You must also consider certain variations that suddenly show up. These variations can disturb your schedule. For instance, you had a bad day at work, or you are ill. The movie plan will have to be postponed for next week then.
Sometimes Children get out of school before we get off work. We should make sure someone is there to get them after school and stay with them until we return home. If we have no one to do that then a day care for him or her is recommended. It is less stressful knowing our Children are not home along without adult supervision. If we are married, quality time is necessary. Intimacy is very important so time should be spent with our spouse without our job on our mind. It is OK to talk about how our day went but not the entire time. This is the time to relax and enjoy each other.
Play dates should be a special occurrence for younger children, not a regular routine. On days with no activities, ensure your child comes home, has an afterschool snack and enjoys some free time before doing their homework. Kids need some days to relax and do nothing. A Family Organizer or Calendar lets kids help with planning by placing stickers to mark activities, play dates and special activities. This will help them prepare for the week ahead.
On the kitchen counter or on the fridge, set up a family calendar. Make sure this is visible to all the family members during most of the times of their day. On this calendar, mark all the upcoming happenings of the following week. This way, you will be able to keep everyone updated about different events. You can also set up a few guidelines. This will make the whole atmosphere disciplined. You should let family members know about a few rules that operate in the house. For instance, the number of times each member can go out with friends in a week, the maximum time till which they can stay out, breakfast to be done with family, etc.
At a family meeting, establish the plan together. They are much more likely to stick to it. Then when your child objects to the plan, remind them that you built it together and you would be happy to re-evaluate the plan at your next family meeting. Post the plan on the refrigerator so that everyone can see it and be reminded of what happens next. Use small drawings or symbols next to each items to allow non-readers to participate.