Sylvia Brown January 8, 2020 Family Schedule
More and more I am realizing that most of your issues can be resolved by simply scheduling your day. What do I mean? Make the schedule, the calendar, the timer, something concrete, outside of you, the authority. Also, a schedule preps your child for the day and upcoming events. You will find your children much more cooperative if they have been clued in to the plan, and more importantly, included in the planning.
At a family meeting, establish the plan together. They are much more likely to stick to it. Then when your child objects to the plan, remind them that you built it together and you would be happy to re-evaluate the plan at your next family meeting. Post the plan on the refrigerator so that everyone can see it and be reminded of what happens next. Use small drawings or symbols next to each items to allow non-readers to participate.
If you are a working woman, things are tough for you. However, you must make it clear to your children that you have a job and they will have to respect your professional requirements too. Therefore, you owe a hand in doing all the chores and family members must cooperate. Even if your work hours are flexible, give enough importance to your work schedule as well as your home schedule.
Once everyone gets their perfect planner there is still one more item needed. A kitchen calendar. It will need to fit on the refrigerator door. This is the best place because it is the one place that everyone will see it, no matter what. Any adjustments to schedules can be listed there for all to see.
Play dates should be a special occurrence for younger children, not a regular routine. On days with no activities, ensure your child comes home, has an afterschool snack and enjoys some free time before doing their homework. Kids need some days to relax and do nothing. A Family Organizer or Calendar lets kids help with planning by placing stickers to mark activities, play dates and special activities. This will help them prepare for the week ahead.
Many of us might find this usual: Last summer you were looking for a house. You contacted real estate agents, saw a few homes, and finally moved into one. You are all set and life is going as usual. However, if you sit back and look at your daily routine, you will find a lot of disorder in it. Your children do not help you with the dishes, you have to clean the rooms on your own and sometimes the laundry is delayed, and so on. What you need to do is develop a proper family schedule and organize your time according to that. Moreover, you are not doing the household chores on your own; you need the family members to cooperate with you.