Anne Sanborn June 24, 2021 Parenting
When working out a parenting agreement for temporary custody, the mother and father need to consider how they will continue to raise the children while living in separate locations. The first decision to make is where the children will live. If it is possible, the children should stay in their same home. The parents should strive to give as much stability as possible to their children during this time of change. The kids should be able to attend the same school and be close to their friends. This can all happen if they stay at their home. This means that the children will most likely live with the parent who has stayed in the house and have visits to the parent who has moved.
Because the temporary parenting plan acts as a bridge during divorce proceedings, it will eventually be replaced by a permanent parenting plan. It can be as detailed or as simple as the parents desire. Parents may create a temporary arrangement based on their children`s needs and their own schedules using custody software such as Custody X Change. The software offers detailed templates to help parents create clear, workable plans that can be printed out and submitted to attorneys or to the family court. Generally, the courts will approve a parent-created plan as long as it shows that the children`s needs are being met in the best possible way.
There was an interesting article in Science Daily posted on August 21, 2013 titled; "Grandmothers Who Raise Their Grandkids Struggle With Depression, Study Suggests," which actually makes a lot of sense, parenting is a huge stress, and older people around younger people all the time makes them feel old, unwanted, too slow, and out of touch.
Additionally, stress is something you do not need in your older age, stress can lead to disease, fatigue, and other problems and challenges. Dirty diapers and unclean conditions can also hamper the immune system, so there are many reasons why grandparents probably should not live with their grandkids, but love them nevertheless, and can not wait to see them again. There is a big difference between visiting grandkids and having to live with them, and apparently the empirical evidence is in, therefore you should take note of it. Please consider all this and think on it.
If the other parent refuses to cooperate on the agreement and insists on going to court, a parent should make every effort to prepare for court and get their parenting agreement accepted. The parent can suggest going to mediation to work things out beforehand, and some states even require that parents attend custody mediation before going to court. However, if things still do not work out, the parent should make a parenting agreement and be prepared to fully explain why this agreement is in the best interest of the children. They should give adequate time to both parents and make the parenting time schedule fair. This will help the court see that this parent is trying to do what is best for the child and increase the chances of the agreement being accepted. Hopefully, things can be resolved in the best way for the children.
Filing for child support is a different process than filing the parenting agreement, but they relate and they can be done at the same time. There are just different papers to fill out. The parenting agreement affects the support payments, because the information in the agreement determines the amount of support. The agreement has the custody and visitation schedule, which provides the timeshare percentage of each parent. The agreement should also contain stipulations about how the parents will provide insurance, education, and other necessities for the child. Some states use these factors to help determine the amount of support.