Wendy Hodge July 24, 2021 Parenting
In a child custody mediation session, a trained mediator acts as a neutral third party to help you and the other parent work together to develop a plan to parent your children after divorce. You may be able to resolve issues in one session, or it may take several sessions.
Divorce and separation are difficult not only for the child but also for the parents. It is important that the parents do all they can to make the transition as seamless and easy as possible. Parents should try and work together if possible to create a single parenting plan so it is created in the child`s best interests. Courts will mostly accept a plan upon which both parents agree and have cooperated on.
The parents should also consider the nature and temperament of their children. If a child is very close to one parent and wants to live with that parent, the child may need to move with that parent. Sometimes that is for the best. Depending on the age of the children, the parents can get input about what the children would like to happen. They can set up different arrangements for each of their children if that is necessary. The parents should listen to their children, but in the end they should act in the best way they see fit.
Working together in mediation allows you to reduce conflict because you are working with a third party. It also allows you to take as long as your reasonably need to reach an agreement that is in the best interest of your children.
A joint custody parenting plan has the best chance of success when you and the other parent experience low-conflict communication. Many divorced couples approach communication as a business agreement where they keep emotion out of the conversation. In other words, when you interact with a co-worker, boss or client, you keep things brief, to the point and professional. If you can do this with the other parent, a joint custody parenting plan may work out for your family.
Making an effective parenting plan is not always easy. It can be overwhelming and scary at times trying to figure out what to include to make it the best it can be. Parents may not know what needs to go into a plan to make effective and worthwhile. Let`s take a look at what a basic plan entails so you know what you should include: A parenting time schedule that shows when each parent cares for the child; A schedule for holidays, birthdays, vacations and special events in the child`s life; Information about the child`s expenses including information about child support; A dispute resolution process that determines how parental disagreements are resolved; A process for making changes to the plan as circumstances change and the child grows older; Provisions the parents feel are necessary for providing and caring for their child; and Additional information that will help make the plan more effective.