Tanya Worthy January 10, 2022 Parenting
Experts recommend that the temporary parenting plan not introduce large changes right away into the children`s lives. While some change is inevitable, parents should minimize drastic changes and introduce new situations slowly. A temporary plan is a good way to get both parents on the same page regarding the new arrangements that separation brings into the family.
Child custody situations can be stressful and overwhelming for parents and children. Too often, the parents bring emotional issues from the divorce into the custody situation and a custody battle develops. The children are the ones who ultimate lose in these cases. The first step to winning custody is for the mother and father to look objectively at the situation and figure out the best way for the children to be raised. This almost always means that both parents need to be involved in the children`s lives (except in cases of abuse or when a parent is unfit). A parent who is seeking to exclude the other parent from the children needs to take a step back and be honest about their reasoning. Are they doing this because of a personal vendetta? Are the children really going to benefit from this action? If the children`s interests are slighted, there is not any way for either parent to win custody.
Working together in mediation allows you to reduce conflict because you are working with a third party. It also allows you to take as long as your reasonably need to reach an agreement that is in the best interest of your children.
Once the mother and father have worked out where the children will live, they need to decide the visitation of the other parent. It is important that the children still have a lot of contact with both parents--one parent should not just disappear. If both parents have been involved in the care-taking of the children, the children will need more visitation with the other parent. The mother and father should look at their work schedules to figure out the arrangements.
When separation or divorce happens and children are involved, the first thing that should be done is making a parenting plan. You may need to make a temporary plan if a long and heated custody battle is coming. Even if custody hearings are short and less stressful, a temporary parenting plan may need to be made before a permanent one is created. A temporary plan should consist of as much detail as you can but needs just the basics to get you by until a permanent plan can be made. What are the basics of a temporary parenting plan? Parenting time schedule - How much time each parent spends with the children Children`s schedules - What activities the children have Emergency information - Any information pertaining to emergencies
When two people divorce and wish to lead separate lives, it becomes much more complicated when children are involved. Divorcing parents should have the same goal-to be as involved in their children`s lives as possible and to provide them with stable, effective parenting. Joint custody is one way to achieve that goal, but can it work for your family?