Tanya Worthy January 10, 2022 Parenting
When separation or divorce happens and children are involved, the first thing that should be done is making a parenting plan. You may need to make a temporary plan if a long and heated custody battle is coming. Even if custody hearings are short and less stressful, a temporary parenting plan may need to be made before a permanent one is created. A temporary plan should consist of as much detail as you can but needs just the basics to get you by until a permanent plan can be made. What are the basics of a temporary parenting plan? Parenting time schedule - How much time each parent spends with the children Children`s schedules - What activities the children have Emergency information - Any information pertaining to emergencies
The family court wants to see an arrangement that represents the best interests of the children. Ideally, both parents will work together to be involved in their children`s lives and will set up a reasonable arrangement that does not disrupt their environment too much.
When it comes time to negotiate with the other parent about changes to the parenting plan, hopefully you are both on the same page about the changes. If the other parent is not open to the revisions, you may need to enter into some negotiations to change the parenting plan on your children`s behalf.
There was an interesting article in Science Daily posted on August 21, 2013 titled; "Grandmothers Who Raise Their Grandkids Struggle With Depression, Study Suggests," which actually makes a lot of sense, parenting is a huge stress, and older people around younger people all the time makes them feel old, unwanted, too slow, and out of touch.
If the other parent refuses to cooperate on the agreement and insists on going to court, a parent should make every effort to prepare for court and get their parenting agreement accepted. The parent can suggest going to mediation to work things out beforehand, and some states even require that parents attend custody mediation before going to court. However, if things still do not work out, the parent should make a parenting agreement and be prepared to fully explain why this agreement is in the best interest of the children. They should give adequate time to both parents and make the parenting time schedule fair. This will help the court see that this parent is trying to do what is best for the child and increase the chances of the agreement being accepted. Hopefully, things can be resolved in the best way for the children.
The solution is to focus on the needs of the child. The mother and father should make a parenting time schedule that lets the child be with both parents in a situation where the child will benefit. If the child is old enough, parents may also want to consult with the child to find out what he/she thinks about the schedule.